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anonymous
writes:hi, I've known this girl around 2 years now and she's my best mate's sister, we get on really well and we've been going out for 7 months now. She's the first girl I've ever really gelled with but the only problem is shes 15 and I'm 19..... we haven't had sex or any other form of sexual foreplay because I respect her and don't want to push her into anything plus she's under age. When I suggested going out with a 15 year old girl to my parents they went mad and told me it was out of the question and I've been lying to them for the past 7 months and they think shes 16. None of her family have an issue with the age gap and we all get on really well and my parents love my girlfriend but it's coming up to her 16th birthday, how do I tell my parents that I've been lying to them for the past 7 months?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): I think you should tell them. Say you are sorry that you lied to them but you didn't think they would understand, you've treated her with respect. The age gap is puny really, theres eight years between my mum and dad. Thats like a 15 year old with a 23 year old. I agree with the anonymous female, when shes 16 what difference did a few months make when she was 15? and you love her and haven't forced her into anything. Go you by the way, not many guys are so well behaved ;) good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): Yeah, try to talk to your parents...
I asked my mom about the right age gap for a relationship, and she said that any age gap is acceptable... it's the love that counts... if you really love the person, then love her. But then my mom joked around and said that if the age gap was like... 20-30 or more years... then that's a different story... ^^;
Anyway, when my mom and I were talking about that, she told me that she was expecting me to have a crush on 2 of my sisters' friends. One is just a little younger than me and the other one is about 4-5 years younger than me... And hey, the girl 4-5 years younger than me was the one I really had a crush on. ^_^
So yeah, talking to your parents really helps. Try it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): theyre going to find out when her birthday comes around and shes not celebrating her 17th like theyl be expecting. what, is she gonna hav to pretend to them to be a year older than she is for the rest of her life if your relationship lasts that long? its not fair on her and to be honest, youre 19, youre old enough to do as you like and tell your parents the truth, if they dont like it then tough. its not their relationship! youl probably find that theyre more upset that youv lied to them. if shes gonna be 16 in a little while, ask them what the difference of a few months really matters if youre in love. good luck
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (5 July 2007):
 Sit them down and tell them. There is no easy way of doing it. Sit your mum and dad down and talk to them and see what they say. They may be angry/upset that you lied to them but you can't blame them for that as you would be the same. Once they know the truth and have calmed down they should be ok with things :)
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