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writes:I am 45, in my second marriage and I want my husband to leave me. We have been married for 5 years. We lived together for 4 years. I pay all the bills. He pays for the grocery bill. Financially I am so strapped. Of course, he says if I need money for a bill I just need to ask him. He makes as much as me. He actually brings home more than me and only pays his visa bill and the food bill. We have no children together. All our children are grown. My are in college and I pay there car insurance, plus part of tuition. His lives with us, is 22, and works here and there. Trys to pay rent. I own my house. He moved in with me. So the house was mine, my responsibility. I work with a man I have known 22 years. We never really talked a lot until the last 8 months. This person couldn't be more attentive to me. Helps me out, listens to me, brings me lunch. I recently went to a psyhic who mentioned this person to me. Said this person and I have great energy. See us as a partnership. Doesn't see me and my husband as a partnership. I love my husband but not in love. There is alot of other stuff in the house that goes on. The other night I got so upset by the inconsiderate way I was treated I flipped out where I was out of control. I made myself extremely sick. I want him to leave and give this other relationship a chance. I really feel this is my soul mate. We have a lot in common. My husband and I have nothing in common. Any opinions? How do I tell my husband to leave?
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reader, buster45 +, writes (3 January 2009):
buster45 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all the responses to my situation. No I havent' spoke with him yet. I am not sure what I am waiting for. I just haven't found the right time. I need to do it soon. I have been doing alot of thinking of what I really want and need.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 December 2008):
 You don't say whether or not you've talked to him about the financial arrangement. Does he know he is putting a strain on your finances? If you want out then tell him to pack his bags but do it only if it's something you'd be doing even without your trip to that goofy "Psychic".
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reader, buster45 +, writes (29 December 2008):
buster45 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI really appreciate the responses. I need time to think and figure out what is best for me. If things do not change soon, at the rate we are going, I am going to be pennyless. I hint a lot about finances because I remind him I have no money because the electric was out of this world. All the leeches are going to have to get out. I cannot afford to support all the people in his life that cannot get it together.
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reader, 48years  +, writes (24 December 2008):
 Tell him you need to talk, and that the marriage isn't working for you-a trial separation would be your goal. Explain to him that you do love him, but you need space-6 months apart. Tell him you don't necessarily want a divorce, and that's why you'd like a separation. You will help him find a new place to live, you will help him move. You would want no contact with him for the first month.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): Well,you can't just tell him to leave.But it would be nice to get out of the marriage since your feelings have gone for your husband.He'll be devastated,so take it easy.The main thing you should tell him is that you're not in love with him.First of all,have you even tried getting your feelings back for him?Did you just go to this psychic and then get this idea in your head?I mean seriously,no one really knows what's gonna happen in the future besides God.
No psychic or fortune teller can give you a very true outlook on your future.Do you still have any feelings for your husband?Have you absolutely gone through both of your interests' and found nothing in common?I really think this is a bad idea.But since your mind seems set on it.....Sit
your husband down and tell him your feelings for him and that you're not in love with him.If he asks questions,then answer them.Such as:Why did you lose feelings for me?,Are you sure you feel this way?What has gone on that has made
you feel this way?.Stuff like that.Tell him the truth and don't hold back.If you decide to go through with this,I hope it works for you.
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