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writes: How do i tell my Fiance i cheated on him with someone i don't even have feelings for in that way at all..and how do i deal with these Emotions how do i daal with myself..i just want 2 curl up in a ball and die!..i know he will still be with me..and work it out..but he will be so mad and disapontied and upset..and i'm already these things with my self.y would i do somthing like this!.. help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): it sounds like your looking for someone to excuse you from what youve done and to forgive you.
telling him will brake his heart and ruin any trust he had in you.
but its a reaction that youve brought upon yourself so you have to pay the price. if you have any respect and ''love'' for him. then youd tell him what youve done. if your lucky and hes stupid he may still want to be with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): It seems you are looking for by writing here about cheating for some forgiveness for your behavior...when really that needs to come from you, You need to forgive You.
Really telling your fiance will hurt him and he won't understand and you will be just dumping all of your guilt onto him, it is sort of like throwing him a hot potato and saying here, you deal with it, I don't want too.
I think the bigger question here is why did you cheat? You are very young and perhaps you are not ready to be engaged yet....you may not know yourself well enough to settle down so soon with your fiance, perhaps you need to grow and mature a little bit more until you are an independent young woman who can stand on her own without a man, and then attract one into her life that wants her and she wants him, not a relationship based solely on need....because if you are rolling up in a ball wanting to die, you sound like you are in a very emotionally needy place....and perhaps you need to be solo for awhile until you feel ready to committ to a lifetime with a partner.
Good Luck what ever you decide to do.
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