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writes:i had my first child at 19 and telling my family was a nightmare so im slightly concerned on how i can make it easier when i tell them this time.i have a new partner now who i have been with for 1 year we are engaged and iv just found out im pregnant again i can not abort the child but am worried with how i am going to tell my parents even though i have moved out and am bringing up my first child as well as i can has any one got any tips on how i can tell them in a gentle way?im more concerned about my younger brother who disagrees with having children at this age as last time when i told him i was pregnant he went crazy and nearly killed himself
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (26 July 2009):
 If your brother threatens suicide, then he needs professional help ASAP. Do you have the number for suicide prevention hotline near you?
That aside, is the the telling them that you don't know how to accomplish or the fear that something bad will happen?
If it's that you know their reaction will be very negative and they simply want to shout at you, then taking the route of notifying them by a letter is perhaps an option to consider. While it might seem less than brave to face them and tell them directly, at least the initial shock will be gone and when you see them again next, they will know already.
If it's that their reaction is likely to be violent, then perhaps getting some people around you to prevent this and doing it in a very public place.
Are you close with your mother or father? Is one more sympathetic to your situation? Tell that one first, in private, get that shock over with and then she or he can help you decide what to tell the rest of the family.
Back to the suicidal brother--make sure you have the emergency number for A and E or the police at hand so that they can respond quickly if needed. Don't allow someone to hurt themselves--it's not your fault he has mental health issues.
Take care and good luck.
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