A
female
age
,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I'm a single mom with 2 grown kids and a teenaged daughter still at home.My daughter has boyfriend who is a great kid. I love him dearly. He is so nice and good to my daughter a real cutie. I would never in a million years want to hurt his feelings. Now onto my situation- My daughter's boyfriend has mentioned to my daughter, several times, that he wants his dad to date me. Well, he brought his father over to meet me yesterday. The honest truth is that the man is a complete looser, severe alcoholic, hasn’t worked in years, living with his mother and probably the most unattractive man I have ever seen in my life. He is friendly enough but I really don't even want to become friends with him and I definitely don't want to date him.He told his son and my daughter that he thinks I am beautiful and have so much in common with him. He gave the impression that he wants to be with me.YUCK!! How do I tell my daughter's boyfriend that I don't want to date his dad? Also, how do I tell the looser guy that I am just not into him? I have a strong feeling that he will start coming around with his son now that he met me. I don't even want him at my house! PLEASE help! I don't want to hurt my daughter's boyfriend's feelings. How do I stop this before it starts without hurting anyone's feelings?
View related questions:
alcoholic Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, RunsWithScissors +, writes (22 May 2008):
You simply tell him that while it was nice to meet him you just aren't interested, and leave it at that. You don't have to give any explanation. If either you daughter or her boyfriend push for more information just laugh it off and say you aren't going to discuss your love life with your kids or their friends.
A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Be firm, strong and truthful. There is no easy way out of this, just say thank you but no thanks. And beside you are old enough to find your own bloke and dont need the help of kids. Dont let them match make the two of you. If you dont want to do something, then it is simple, dont do it.
take care
xx
...............................
A
male
reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Well a crude way, suggest that if you two got together and married, your daughter would have a brother she really really likes.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2008): Just tell your daughter you are uncomfortable to date the father that if eanything negative happened in either of your relationships it may be it difficult for the other. If he shows up with his son I would tell him the same thing.
...............................
|
