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writes: I'm 23 plus and my guy lives close to our neighbourhood is 29 plus. we've started dating each other getting to two month. we both love and care for each other so much and now he is asking me to marry him which is too early. and also my parent never wanted me to have boyfriend now because they wanted me to finished my four years course first which i begin this year. and now i'm so confused how do i tell my boyfriend to wait for four years for me to finish my course before getting married?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2014): I think you also need to find out why he's moving for marriage so soon. Is it cultural or religous? In which case, while you still should say you aren't ready, it will at least make sense. I know of a few cases where men have proposed to women early in order to take advantage of them, financially, for citizenship, and not to scare you but even to trick them into sexual trafficking. Marriage is a lot deeper than love. Why is he so ready for marriage so soon? ...and this is coming from someone who got married after about 8 months (religous reasons), please be safe. And sorry if I've offended you, its quite possible he's just a very fast moving guy.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (8 March 2014):
Dear OP,
Just tell it to him like it is. His idea to marry after only two months of dating is quite head-over-heels and it's better to ask for time. If your love is strong enough, it will last without the ring, if it's not, it's well better you don't marry each other.
I think 4 years is a good time to wait, if you are the love of his life, he will be able to come up with the patience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2014): Thanks for your responds so far i really appreciate your advice.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (7 March 2014):
 OP why can't you just say "I think it's a bit soon to be talking about marriage"?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (7 March 2014):
 The problem is not the age or how long you have been dating. Plenty of people get married, have kids, then start to think about education and jobs. This decision has to be yours only. Your parents only act as your guidance. If you think it's too soon then it's too soon. You could compromise with a long engagement.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2014): Two months is a ridiculously short amount of time. Just tell him, that you need to take things a little slower and that you want to finish your course before you make any commitments to anything.
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