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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months now. We get along very well and things are great up until now. The problem is that my period is late and I think I might be pregnant. I know I shouldnt freak out until I know for sure but Im worried. Im only 18 and Im going away to college next year. There is no way I could support a baby. Im pretty sure I am going to get an abortion. Please dont force your beliefs on me. Im just very scared and want to know how to tell him. Also I hear you cant have sex for 2 months after you get one. What if he leaves me after knowing that? What do I do :(
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (14 June 2012):
Im after reading your update and glad to hear you are A ok ('',) good luck for the future x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (29 May 2012):
 OP congrats on NOT being pregnant.
remember that Birth control pills need a few weeks to be effective....
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reader, Ciar +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Excellent news! Good thing you didn't stir up a hornet's nest for nothing.
Thanks for letting us know.
Best of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI got my period a few days ago and now I'm on birth control so all is fine. What a relief
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you to everyone who responded :) ill wait to get a test until the next month starts just in case its a late period. also i know sometimes a test might be negative if its too early. hearing people whove gone through it give me advice makes me feel a bit better. ill keep you updated :)
i understand hes not worth it if he leaves its just that the end of a relationship is sad especially when you thought they werent like that - im sure you all understand.
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (25 May 2012):
 Don't! Calm down, take a deep breath. You will go through many pregnancy scares in your life. 99.9% of the time it will just be a scare. You are worrying too much over nothing. Your period varies every month. Just wait a few more days. If you still don't have a period, then get a test. If the test is positive, visit the doctor. Until you have it confirmed by a Doc you don't need to tell your boyf. You would likely freak him out, especially if you don't know for sure, you will be showing him your crazy. Keep calm. Follow the procedure. Once you know for sure, then you tell people and make a decision. If you dont know for sure you are just crying wolf. You need to learn to control these pregnancy worries. We all get them honestly. But I have always been proven to be wrong, no matter how convinced I was that I was pregnant. Chill, you are probably just having in irregular period.
Also if your boyf leaves because you have to have an abortion, well he's doing you a favor by showing your early on that he's not boyf material...
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reader, deirdre +, writes (25 May 2012):
the last 2 answers are very good. you know what you want to do with this so dont let people blackmail and guilt trip you into making ''THEIR'' decision, it is your decision to make and you are doing it for the right reasons.definitely do a test before saying anything to him though, good luck x
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reader, Ciar +, writes (24 May 2012):
'I know I shouldnt freak out until I know for sure...' You just as well as anyone else could.
The logical solution is to confirm whether or not you're actually pregnant. If you're not then you don't have to tell your boyfriend or anyone else anything.
Not only would it give you an answer but making the plan, then the process of scraping up the funds and buying the thing gives you something to DO. The more you sit and do nothing the more you will worry.
Makes sense?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 May 2012):
You don't tell him you MIGHT be pregnant.
You go get a pregnancy test and you make sure THEN you tell him you don't think it's wise to have this baby and you want him to go hold your hand and take care of you while you terminate the pregnancy.
IF he leaves you after finding this out, well then he wasn't a very good boyfriend now was he?
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