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writes: I have a very close friend who for a long time had relationship problems, mainly she hasn't had a real relationship. She was into a guy for a very, very long time who showed no interest in her until recently he asked her out. She said yes even though she was finally starting to get over him (they vacationed in the same place and after the trip suddenly started hanging out again). The problem is the last couple months I've been inexplicably falling for her which is strange because I was never attracted to her before even though we were incredibly close friends. Now every time I look at her or am with her I feel a strange happiness. We usually end up together at some point in the night when we go out or if we are just around our residence (We live in the same hall in our school residence). I never thought of this as anything more then us just being close friends but lately i've started to wonder if she likes me more then a friend which would be great. A couple weekends ago we had quite a bit to drink and ended up fooling around for most of the night which I thought was a simple whim on her part until it started happening more often. She started dating the guy she had fell for, mentioned above, about 3 weeks ago (3 days after we fooled around), but the other night she ended up spending the entire evening sitting on my lap talking to me regardless of how it looked or who saw us, one friend even mentioned it asked me if we were together after that night. We ended up at a pub last night and she asked me to dance and we kissed on the dance floor while her b/f was upstairs at a table in the same pub. But when i asked her about it today she said she didn't remember it and ended the conversation quickly. Even when we are in a room together it seems like we just end up stealing glances at each other and when she was sitting next to her b/f she kept looking at me almost as if to gauge my reaction to her being with him. I talked to a close mutual friend and he said he noticed that we seem to be 'into each other' and he suggested that I approach her with how i feel and see what she says. But how do I approach her when she just started dating a new b/f, she has little to no relationship experiance and I am horrible at feelings and figuring out girls :( I also keep 2nd guessing the fact that the signs that she is giving do mean that she likes me because thats what I want to believe. Anyways, I apologize for this being so long but it is hard to sum one's feelings in a few sentences. It may help to mention that in about a month I am leaving for 3-4 months and will probably only see her occasionaly as in once a month. I thought that it may help if i told her how i feel then told her that when i came back in September we could decide what to do. Would it help to have a break from each other and let her decide how she feels about her b/f and me?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 Action speaks louder than words.
Let your actions tell her that you like her....
It is no use telling her when there is no actions..
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