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writes:how can i tell if this guy ive been seeing does really like me or if im just there to pass the time? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): Sweety, I hate to say this but, if you really have to wonder or are totally confused about the dynamics of this relationship then you may be sensing a problem. Gals are pretty intuitive. But, intuition is not all you should go on. The only way to tell, is to closely watch how he behaves, dear. Pay attention to his 'give and take' behaviors. Does he only talk about himself and his life, never giving much thought about 'your life'? Does he take any interest in your life? Does he listen to you...really hear what you say to him when you communicate feelings, thoughts and opinions? Does he ask about your family, friends? If everything that you do together is one sided to what he always wants, you are likely getting played by a player. When anyone you date only wants you to do everything they want, it only shows that they are looking to please themselves and they really have no intentions of having you be a part of their life, over the long term.
But the best way to tell is time. If he's just passing time with you, he will get bored soon and move on to a new conquest. And another thing, ask your friends what they think he is doing. If they think he's 'playing' you-listen to them! Love can cause some people to be blind. If you feel you are being played or used as someone he just passing time with until a better offer comes along...trust your instincts and make the break. You may be a bit hurtful for a while...but a few months down the road, you will never regret the decision. Good luck, hun and be strong.
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