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writes:I am sort of starting to have feelings for my ex boyfriend. I have been telling him, if he really wanted to be with me, there are a lot of changes that would have to be made. And he would need to divorce his wife. He's been telling me, he's been trying to find a place for himself and his son however, it ain't working as fast as it should. I have told him, things aren't going to happen unless you do what you have to do. Other than that, I am going to continue on with my life and raise my daughter. He still keeps in contact however, I keep the conversation as short as possible. But then, he continues to call. How can I go about this situation about letting him know to leave me alone until he's out of his marriage?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): im sorry but what hes doin is wrong imagine hes poor wife put yourself in her shoes before you start asking what your ment to do
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reader, Mad-Hat-Matt  +, writes (11 June 2007):
Just tell him he has to be told. Tell him exactly how you feel and that if he does get out of his current mariage then you will b here waiting but dnt wait forever most men say im gona get out and never do so dnt b a mug tell him to stay away until he is ree that the only way to do it be clear and straight to the point
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reader, Everfall23 +, writes (11 June 2007):
I feel as though you must tell him candidly exactly that. "I cannot have contact with you unless you leave her." Just tell him that you can't take part in his life while he's done with her. There's no subtle, easy way of saying something that is so important for him to know. If you don't tell him in this way, he probably won't take you that seriously or ignore your request. I know your situation is difficult because not only is he still married but the both of you have children as well. Just be straight forward with him or he won't get it. Be firm, know what you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): Stop taking his calls. period.Change your number or get caller id and/or an answering machine and screen your calls. Then don't pick up, ever. It'll take a while before he gets the message, but in the meantime you will have your self-respect.
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