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reader, rivi  +, writes (15 June 2010):
Well how far gone are you ?
The longer you leave it the more trauma an abortion would be if that-s what you decide.
Sounds like at the moment you-re still in time for the RU pill to work. But maybe not for much longer.
The new bf has zero obligation to support you or the kid - what happened to its actual father btw ? Of course you have to tell both men and decide quickly what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): Oh ok I'm sorry then. Well if the child really was conceived before you started going out with him tell him. Sit him down and tell him the truth and the both of you'll choose what to do :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNightfairy i DIDNT cheat on him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): OK so you did cheat while you were with him? You have to clear your conscious.
What ever you do DON'T LIE! And getting an abortion isn't as easy as you think.
NightFairy
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): Only you can know if you want the baby or not.
i have two things for you to think about.
if you have an abortion because you are scared of loosing your boyfriend, what happens if things don't work out with this boyfriend will you be happy with your decision?
Having an abortion, and carrying and pretend nothing happened do you think you will be able to keep that secret from him forever?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys. can i say that i didnt cheat the baby was conceived before i got with him. i love him. but so scared we will break up. shall i get an abortion and pretend nothing happened ??
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reader, Waiting for an angel +, writes (6 June 2010):
Tell your bf the truth, the baby deserves to be around its father of course if hes willing to be there. And tell whom ever the father is that you're expecting is for the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2010): sit him down and talk to him as honestly and calmly as you can - if it helps, i started dating a guy only to realise i was 8 weeks gone. Though personally i kept the baby news to myself because i wasn't sure if we were commited enough to each other to share such stuff. In the end he dumpt me when i was 4 and a half months ... with him completely unaware i was pregnant. Was nice actually, to feel normal. The guy can never accuse me of trying to trap him as i never slept with him .. i have a strict personal policy of having gaps being guys sexually. That may have been the reason he dumpt me, no sex, ah well lol. I had fun regardless :) Had we been more serious then i would have told him but as we were not, i felt it wasn't his business to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2010): As you know for sure that it is not his baby, then you don't have a choice but to tell him. Just sit him down and tell him, the sooner the better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2010): Well does he know that you have slept with an other guy? If you have while you were with him that was cheating. So you are scared to tell your bf that you were cheating on him. Why were you cheating? Aren't you happy with him, were you drunk etc. I don't think there is a easy way to tell him. You have to sit him down and start from the begging. Tell him everything without lying and give him some time to think things through :)NightFairy
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2010): He has to know this. Chances are you two will split up from this but think about what it would do to him years down the line when he finds out. You need to explain to him that there was a mistake made and you understand the consequences to the actions. There is no easy way to do it but better now than later when more would have to suffer.
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