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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:A co-worker, and close friend of mine, is a married man. He's always flirted with me, but I thought it was innocent. But he's recently confided in other co-workers that he is in love with me and considering leaving his wife. I do not want this! He is confused, and according to those who told me, infatuated with me. Although I do love him, it is not in a romantic way, and I would not consider being with him. I also think that if given the opportunity he would have an affair with me, which I don't want. I need to make it clear that I don't feel the same way, but I don't want to offend him. He is a lovely guy and I don't want to hurt his feelings. I want to keep our friendship and continue to work with him. How can I tell him?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 May 2010):
 You are under no obligations to reciprocate anybody's feelings...but least of all those of a married man,and if he assumes you would, he is being conceited ,because just his marital status would be a big turn-off for most single girls. Don't encourage him by being too friendly,which he is bound to misunderstand. And if he says something to you,or makes his move, just turn him down politely yet firmly, if he gets his feeling hurt this is his problem ,because he should not be romancing you anyway.
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