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writes:Been with my boyfriend now for nearly 2 years only see him on occasions as we live a distance away from each other. When we do get together i find i'm always the one making the first move, my past relationship was passionate so i miss the intimacy. He doesn't seem to be as passionate, hardly touches me, seems to be me doing all the touching, not sure how to tell him i need more without hurting his feelings. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 January 2009):
I think you need to be honest here, but do it as tactfull as you can.
Rather than saying "you are not doing this and I want you to." why not just ask him if everything is ok between you. Tell him you've noticed that he doesn't seem that into you any more and you want to know he's still happy with everything between you.
If you phrase it as an "is it me?" question then it stops being a "it's your fault" issue. (Even though it probably is his fault.) Think of it as taking a hit for the team.
If that doesn't work then you may have to be a little more direct, but you can cross that bridge when you come to it and a lot then will depend on his reaction to this.
Good Luck!! xx
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