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writes:I have been dating this guy for bout 3 years and we have really good sex. Always great sex but the thing is i want be be more kinky like being tied up and stuff like that but i dont know how to tell him cuz we have awsome sex and i dont want him to think stupid but i just like pain and stuff like that.How should i tell him?please help me!thanks:) Reply to this Question
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reader, saltwater  +, writes (25 July 2008):
 Glad it worked out ;-)
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (25 July 2008):
 your most welcome glad things turned out well for you! good luck aphex xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all u guys...and girls that answered my question. Well we always go to sex shop and have good kinda kinky sex but i just wanted more kinky...maybe i dont make sense 2 u guys right now but i just kinda talked 2 him bout it and of course he is a male so anything to do with sex he was up for! We have sex like 3 times a day so trying to spice it up was no problem for the kinkyness...i guess i was kinda scared for nothing cuz we been 2gether for 3 years and are each others best friends and can talk bout everything so i dont know.i guess i didnt want to be werid for wondering if i was like the only normal person that wanted to be more freakier in the sheets.well i see now thats there is a lot more freaks too! Haha thanks!
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reader, saltwater +, writes (24 July 2008):
Well you have to drop hints to him.
Being tied up is a common fetish....you never know, he might be into it too!
If he does agree, then take it slow at first...maybe tie yourself or him (whichever way around you want it ;-)) to the bed maybe...then progress to more "extreme" scenarios.
A trip to the sex shop will give you plenty of ideas and inspiration.
Of course, after going so far, you or him may decide that you don't like it, so to help keep the awkwardness down you can use a codeword to stop....like "normal", and then you stop the kinky stuff then morph into "normal" sex so there is no awkwardness or embarrassment.
But like I say, he may be into kinky stuff too...men are usually dark horses with things like this....
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (24 July 2008):
well what you could do is bring it up as a subject like you was watching a show the other day and it was saying how not all people like being tied up its all about perspective. and go i was wondering what yours was.. if he says yes suprise him in the bedroom the next day :P..or you could just ask him flat out what he does like and doesnt, since you know their are few things out their that you havent explored whats your limit.. hope that helps aphex xx
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