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writes: from mens point of views please!!!i have posted before and i would like some more opinions and advice please from men, as men know how a man thinks.i have been dating a man for a few months now, we live quite far apart but try to meet up a couple of times a week. he calls me his girlfriend, But lately i feels like it's more of a friendship than boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. in his texts to me he never as much as end it with a kiss. he says he has never been in a serious relationship before,where i have had too many bad experiences. i am a very warm loving person and i really want it to work,i really like him and he says he really likes me too. so why the platonic messages?? and how can i tell him how i feel without coming across needy ??
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reader, Lake +, writes (21 September 2006):
How can I put this.... hmmmm...
Men are generally bad at displaying their feelings. Some, like me do not feel the need to xxx's on messages as they seem insincere. A man's feels comes through when you are with him.
The fact that you still like him tells me that his attitude is different when you are together.
Don't worry to much over text messages. I am sure you will know that it is alot easier to compose a written message than a verbal one because we have time to set our messages on paper. Big secret, its one reason why it usually takes us men so long to reply!
The fact that he has never been in a serious relationship before would also cause him some distress in having a girl friend. Be gentle and let him know what a relationship is about slowly. Don't force him or make demands on what he should or should not do. A relationship should be a two way thing and understanding each other insecurities is a must. Talk to him, but don't drop all your relationship problems on him at once!
Good luck.
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reader, leggy_blonde +, writes (20 September 2006):
leggy_blonde is verified as being by the original poster of the question thankyou for taking the time to respond, anyone more advice or opinions??? would be really appreciate though x
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2006): I started to have the same thing with my partner.I use to always get a luv u xxxxx at the end of my texts.One day i just got a kiss (x) i did make a joke of it to them by saying dont you love me anymore then.They looked confused at me and i told them about the text and they looked at their phone sent messages and they couldnt appoligise enough even though i was joking.If it concerns you point it out to them in a joking manner like what i done it makes the situation a light hearted one and since i have always had a luv u xxxxxxx at the end of my texts.
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reader, Toria +, writes (20 September 2006):
 I know you asked for mens views but as I was reading your worries became familiar as I have been in this same position as you are now, I spoke to my boyfriend about it at the time and he didn't even realise what he was doing he was so use to texting his mates that kisses and things like that didn't come naturally, where as alot of us females do put kisses on texts to our girlfriends aswell as our boyfriend, after I spoke to him and got him to see how I was feeling I got texts with kisses almost everytime, so I would suggest talking to him he is with you for who you are so don't ever feel worried about being honest and telling him how your feeling.
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