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writes:Lately I haven't been sexually attracted to my fiance, and have been looking more at other men and women. His weight gain has increased so much, and I think that this could be why i'm so uninterested. I don't know how I would go about telling him that i'm not attracted to him, without hurting his feelings. I have a feeling if I don't tell him, that I will make the horrible mistake of cheating on him. It's really that bad. Advice please?
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (10 August 2009):
 It's better that you've discovered this before the marriage, and not four years into the marriage like me. I think it might be best to postpone your wedding and figure out where your head is at. Marriage is a big committment, and I don't think you're ready.
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reader, Char02 +, writes (10 August 2009):
I personally think that you would hurt him MORE if you didn't tell him and go ahead and cheat on him, than if you told him that his increased weight has become a problem for you. I think that it would be fair to the both of you if you did tell him. If you ever cared about him at all, ever loved him at all, you wouldn't cheat on him and you'd give him a chance to better himself for you. You should also ask yourself, is it truly his weight you don't like or do you just not want to be with him anymore? I hope this helps you out some. Good luck!!
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