A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi everybody.I've known this girl called "S" for about 3 years now. We're really close friends, and we're nearly always together. I see her every day at college, and at the weekends I'm usually around hers. Over the past year my feelings have changed towards her dramatically. I'm completely obsessed/in love with her. You know, when every time you see them your heart skips a beat and you want to spend every moment you can with them. It's like that.I've wanted to tell her how I feel about her for a while now, but I can't seem to find the right moment. I'm not worried about her reaction, neither of us have had any experience with same sex relationships, but she's told me she's not bothered by them in the slightest. She flirts with me sometimes, we call each other babe and gorgeous, she's held my hand in public and she puts her arm around my shoulder and my arm around her waist a lot. Are these signs that she's interested in me too?I can't get her out of my mind. Only my best friend knows how I feel, and she thinks I shouldn't tell her. I asked her why and she said that S isn't into that sort of thing. It's made me even more nevous to ask her, but not enough to not ask. So my question is, does anybody have any tips on how to tell S my feelings for her? And can anybody help me on how to bring the subject up at the right moment?Sorry if it was long, thanks in advance.
View related questions:
best friend, flirt Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): tell her, you may be surprised, she may take a while to get her head around it but believe me she will have had sexual thoughts about you to with what you said regarding the flirting, she probably has an idea how you feel. you cant hide what you feel your body language is and will be giving you away. pull back from her for a little while see what happens she may come to you, if she asks why you are not around so much....then tell her.
A
male
reader, OhLawdWhat DoIDo +, writes (8 July 2008):
 I can relate to this! I also wish to tell someone how I feel about them and have been asking a few people, who know a lot more than me, for some advice. What they said has helped me tremendously, maybe it will work for you too.The trick is to not think about it TOO much. Think roughly what you want to get across to her, the key points that you want to raise and leave it at that. It will sound better, more true and with more feeling if you make it up as you go along. As for the right TIME, well thats easy. Make sure you are both alone, thats important. You dont want someone butting in half way through you pouring your little heart out. Just be sure it is somewhere where they can quickly retreat away from you so that they dont have to be around you if they dont feel the same way. For example, I plan to tell the girl I like just before she walks into her house. That way she can just say "Ok thanks, sorry, bye" if she wishes. It will make the whole thing much less awkward.I wish you the best of luck and I truly hope she feels the same way you do!x
...............................
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2008): first ask yourself at what moment did this friendship evolve from friend to romantic friend. Or has this always been your desire to be romantic, and the friend was a cover. Either way, ask your "friend" this question as well and see the response. If the response is positive, the quality of the following kiss will tell you if you've diluded yourself with the romance or with the friendship. If you feel like laughing during the kiss, you've got yourself a friendship there. If you can't get enough, then you've got a romance. The rest is situational, location, single, goals, ect... By the way, if it is romance, and you are close to 30, don't lie about wanting a family. I've seen many relationships, les, gay, bi, straight, dissintigrage from differences in this basic goal.
Mining Minds
...............................
A
male
reader, steven 25206542 +, writes (8 July 2008):
 right fair enought uv nowing her for ages but u dont wanna tell her u love her yet u need to ask her out as in bf gf but with her friend saying she isnt into all that she might be right ur friend might just be saying it doesnt bother her so u dont feel uncomfertable and as for holding hands and haveing nice names for each other i do that with my male m8s joking on it doesnt always mean affection wat u need to do is talk to her about ur feelings explain that u have strong feelings for her and that it streches beyond friendship but tell her that if the feeling isnt mutual that u wanna still be her friend cause u dont wanna lose her friendship if she is so close it will be a normall disucthion if she doesnt feel that way but if she does feel that way then discusiing it and just coming out with it would be very romantic
...............................
|
