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*acmcgraw
writes:I very recently left my wife (less then a month ago). I realized I had feelings for a co worker. Since the breakup between my wife and I, my co-worker has admitted that she to has feeling for me but she is afraid of a relationship. She is only 20, single mom with a four year old son, she is in university plus works part time. She told another one of our coworkers that she loves spending time with me and would love to date but she is afraid of the drama that would come with it . She said she doesn't have time for games.My ex is the only relationship I was ever in, I haven't dated since I was high school. how do I take this slow enough for my co worker but also let her know that I'm interested in her. With working together and having mutual friends we spend a lot of time together. I want as little drama as possible , with everything with my family and ex the last thing I need is any more drama to deal with.
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reader, Zacmcgraw +, writes (27 June 2015):
Zacmcgraw is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, I don't plan on rushing things. I want to take things slow and in no way would I use her as a rebound girl. I have the up most respect for her. She has a lot on her plate and I admire her for that. I want to make her as comfortable as I can and let her be in charge of how fast things move. I just haven't date in a very long time and I want to do things right for her
I do want to get things sorted out with my wife. I am officially moved out of our house and I do plan on going to see a lawyer in the very near future.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (26 June 2015):
 Kudos to Honeypie. How could anyone add to that?????
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2015):
Honeypie again nails it .. as a mental health nurse . My only add on is to think of your wife feelings .. its only one month since the break up . Whether your relationship was already sinking prior to this makes no difference. You don't want drama . Your Co worker is just out her teens with a baby . Don't as hp says make her rebound poor girl has enough to deal with in her life .
As hp says by holding back and being a gentlemen until everything at home is settled your are respecting both your wife and your Co worker .
Get your ducks in a row as hp normal says haha and look to a bright future .
You can say to your Co worker once everything sorted I would love to take you out on a proper date until then I can only offer friendship and support to a degree ..
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2015): Honeypie again nails it .. as a mental health nurse . My only add on is to think of your wife feelings .. its only one month since the break up . Whether your relationship was already sinking prior to this makes no difference. You don't want drama . Your Co worker is just out her teens with a baby . Don't as hp says make her rebound poor girl has enough to deal with in her life .
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 June 2015):
 You don't date till you have sorted your separation/divorce out with your wife.
YOU are not single and it's been a MONTH since you left your wife.
SLOW down. Don't use this NICE young co-worker as your rebound.
You CAN let her know that you are interested in dating her IN the future, once your HOMELIFE is sorted out. Right now though... YOU have NOTHING to offer your co-worker, but your company.
Be a GENTLEMAN.
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