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anonymous
writes:I am seriously fed up.My boyfriend is the most possessive insecure man I have ever met. He accuses me of cheating on a regular basis and questions my every move. I am so sick to death of having to explain myself constantly. I know I need to just walk away from this man but the problem is he makes me feel so guilty I end up taking him back every time, even when he calls me the most awful names. How do I summon up the willpower to walk away from him? I am ag the end of my tether I can't take anymore!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2015): I don't like the way you speak to me. I don't like you're insecurity. I need to be happy. This relationship doesn't make me happy anymore. I'm done. It's over. I wish you all the best.
Please don't contact me anymore as I will not respond. Take care.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 December 2015):
 How do you do it?
When you accept and realize that YOU deserve more than this. That being single isn't worse than being with someone who really doesn't love you, doesn't respect you or... trust you.
And he doesn't. (love you, respect you or trust you) A Loving relationship is about building each other up, enjoying each other, supporting each other, being there for each other, trusting each other, sharing experiences together... NOT tearing each other down, not calling each other names and definitely not manipulating ones partner.
Find the REAL reason you keep taking him back. You say he "makes" you feel guilty so you take him back, but there is more to it than him manipulating you. Because obviously you keep being available to him - he can still call you, email, text, Facebook... whatever...
IF you are truly done, you end it and cut him off, so that he CAN'T contact you and CAN'T manipulate you into thinking you don't deserve better than him or that you somehow owe him to stay and be miserable. Block him from your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2015): I've been there before and I know people will say just walk away there's nothing more to it but it's hard.What I did was to write down every single bad thing he ever said to me, every single thing that I could remember I wrote it down and at the end I looked at a page filled up with disgusting things. I then wrote down all of the bad arguments I ever remembered. Looking at all of that in the end gave me the strength to just go I really can't be bothered with this.Imagine if you were in a happy relationship right now and you got a text saying lovely things from that guy right now, how would that make you feel? Compared to you probably having an inbox full of nasty crap.I ended up thinking I had one life and there is absolutely no point in wasting it being miserable when you don't have to. If something is wrong and it can't be fixed or changed you can learn to live with it, but if there is something wrong and you CAN change it, do it!You owe him absolutely nothing and you have to question yourself why you continue to stay and let him do that to you. Is it because you are worried about being lonely or you think you can't do better? There are plenty of other people who can keep you company and are lovely to boot.My ex had a massive meltdown because I had a bath in the morning when he was leaving for work, I then went for a walk for a couple of hours. When he came home I was getting out of the bath and he instantly went mad thinking I was bathing twice in a day because I had just slept with somebody. That was the last with me, he wouldn't let me do absolutely anything without him questioning every single detail.There is no point in living life being miserable it's just an absolute waste.
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