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How do I stop worrying and enjoy my relationship?

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Question - (18 January 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 18 January 2010)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I don't know how to deal with my insecurity issues.

I've been with my BF for about 5 months, known him for about 6 and he's really amazing. Before him I didn't have a serious relationship. One guy I dated cheated on me and lied all the time, another two just disappeared without an explanation...just stopped calling.

I want so badly to feel secure in my current relationship but I just don't know how.

I see my BF once a week and also during the weekends. If for example we're not in touch during a day or two that we don't hang out I start thinking he's losing interest. The other night I left his place and we didn't make plans for our next get together and now I'm all paranoid that he's not that keen anymore.

I know this is so illogical but I can't stop! What can I do to stop feeling like this?

I've tried doing other things with my time but my mind can't stop worrying. Please help!

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A female reader, Drkelly United Kingdom +, writes (18 January 2010):

Drkelly agony auntI've I had similiar problems to you, and in many ways still do. My boyfriend and I are together 3 years now, and due to past experiences I find it extremely hard to trust him, and it causes a plague of problems. Its hard, but you should try to trust him, until he does something to jeopardise that. If he does lose interest, then he is clearly not the right one for you, and it simply isin't meant to be. Try to get on with enjoying your own life, don't leave it solely down to him to enrich it for you, only you can make you happy.

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