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writes:Okay, so I'm completely head over heels inlove with this guy, we have only been dating for 4 months(I know its not that long of a time) but I can't help how I feel about him. Not to long ago he broke up with me :/ it devastaded me! But then he apologized and said he missed me already, now me being inlove with him I ofcourse took him back. The thing I need advice on is that I'm so scared he is going to break my heart again! What should I do to stop worrying about this so much? Please help!
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (24 September 2009):
 I think your fear has a lot to do with the fact that he broke up with you once. I don't blame you for being worried. What you have to try and tell yourself is that what is meant to be will be, and there is absolutely no point in worrying now thinking that something bad might happen in the future. If you were to even ask him about this he'd assure you everything is going to be ok, but no one can give you a guarantee on these things. People change, things change, stuff happens and you just have to accept it. I really do think that what is meant to be will be and although it's hard not to worry, it really is useless and it stops you from enjoying the moment. Whatever you do, don't let these insecurities ruin what you guys have now. If you get too insecure he will sense that and he might back off. Be yourself and let the wind take you wherever you are meant to go. I know you're really into him but if he's not the one you're meant to be with in the long run it won't work out and no amount of worrying, scheming or manipulating things will change that.Just try to relax and enjoy the here and now. You don't want to look back on this 20 years from now and say to yourself 'damn I wish I enjoyed that time instead of worrying so much about it.'Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2009): I can tell you I have been through this. I have been with my man for over three years and I think we are finally good, but he has broken my heart and broken up with me probably about five times!!!!!! you just need time to stop worrying about it. There are no magic solutions. I would panic when he did not call, get scared if he did not sound "quite right". If you need to, tell him gently that you are a little scared and to be patient with you if you worry too much. Good luck.
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