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anonymous
writes:I hope i can get some advice without anyone thinking i'm crazy :)I've been with my boyfriend just over 2 years. We have a fantastic relationship. I love him dearly. About six months before we got together, he had just got out of a 3 year relationship, with a girl who didn't want to break up with him.So for the first lot of months of our relationship, i took things VERY slowly, and was always considerate for this other girl who obviously would be hurting, and took time to figure out if he was ready for another relationship etc. Anyways, a few months later, he told me he loved me, and so we settled down. We do love eachother and have a very special relationship.The problems come from his ex. (and in fact his family that still won't meet me after this length of time because they love his ex. mad.) She has shown much desperation in the past year regarding the break up...initally i understood...but then it just got scary. She Bombarded both of us daily with texts and calls, dedicated social networking sites....(Myspace/Facebook) to us, and told the world how i stole her boyfriend etc. etc. etc....This all went on for a seriously long time, and eventually led to her gathering up a little possy of team mates, who all decided that my relationship had something to do with all of them.Long story short, the situation worsened severely. It got traumatic....i eventually lost about 2 stone(from my normal 8 1/2 stone weight), and was diagnosed with bulimia nervosa. (Yes! It was that bad).Anyways, it was a pretty mental time...(boyfriend is there holding my hand through all of this by the way).....But the situaton over time finally settled down. People got bored, and she seemed to move on. There is still bitching going on among them after 2 years, but i have moved on a great deal. So i have delighted! But now, i think i'm obsessed with her. It may not be clear from what i have written, but i was under so much stress and trauma from all angles with her. Bullying, stress, fighting for my relationship, harassment etc. etc. etc. I imagine it's some sort of reprocution of events, but i hate her even in my thoughts.My boyfriend knows nothing of it, but i really go out of my way to find out about what she's doing with herself, and where's she going etc. It's a little crazy, but i can't help it. I hate looking at her pictures, or hearing through the grapevine, about her.How do i stop this obsession? And finally close this chapter in my life, once and for all?
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (3 May 2008):
 Woah! What a crazy lady. Not you btw lol. I can see why she's on your mind so much and why you hate her . This girl has gone out of her way to destroy you. Anyone would be looking for a little revenge. But really you are not hurting anyone but yourself. She doesnt care if you hate her, in fact she doesnt even know about all the anger and horrible feelings burning inside you. The only person that has to deal with them is you. And as everyone knows having that much hatred for someone eats you up, blocks out your personality and just makes you miserable. So do yourself a favour and laugh at her, forget about her and just be happy with your man. The girl obviously has a few issues of her own but its not your problem. Who cares what she's up to? The best revenge is success so just be happy and in love and concentrate on your own relationship, making sure your boyfriend knows how much you appreciate his help and support during a difficult time. Who knows, one day you might even be thanking the psycho for making you and your man closer than you would've been without her interference.
Brooke
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): well umm first of all..lets say that... she is jealous because he broke with her and he went to you!! okkay so now she is made.well one she can just get over it and just forget it because he is with you now and there is nothing she can do about it. he is very happy and if she doesnt like that then oh well..its not what she thinks or what she wants its about you and your boyfriend.but all you got to do and take a deep breath and just let it go!! dont let her get in your way.dont let her get too you. she is nothing now and never was..so just be happy for what you...got and let it go!!
if that helps..
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