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*ooddrawer
writes:My teacher is really handsome, funny and smart, he's about 40 years old (i'm 15).It started when I was 12, I had a crush on him for a year and a half. But when I was 13 and a half I started to have sexual thoughts about him and I was desperate for his touch and body,so I told him that I couldn't stop thinking about him but he told me it isn't allowed.So I got really depressed, I would also look up where he lived and I also have a photo of him on my ipod.Now I want to get better but I want to do it for him as well as that I want to stop my lust for him(I feel like I am ready and determined to stop this lust) at the same time,he's the only one that feels worth getting better for.How do I stop this lust for him?Does anybody know if or how I could stop my lust for my teacher as well as getting better for him?Is there a certain way I could stop my lust for him and get better for him?
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reader, gooddrawer +, writes (27 June 2010):
gooddrawer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi,
I just found out on the last day of school that we will be moving houses now I can't go to the same school,I have been crying all night and in the mornings because I won't be able to see my teacher again.
I am now trying to make a move on trying to not forget about him but be grown up about us not being able to be together.
So I am concentrating on other things and I want to do something with my life for him.
I know that I will always miss him but it will be better if I try to stop needing him now.
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reader, gooddrawer +, writes (15 June 2010):
gooddrawer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes my father lives with us,and I don't think it could be a father figure thing because all I really need is his body. But then sometimes I think that I love him and have strong feelings for him but deep down I know that it isn't love, I can't seem to let go because his body is just so perfect to me.
Sometimes I get angry and feel like punching things because I need his body so much and because I know that he is with someone else.
I not just depressed because I need him,it's also because of other things in my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2010): First evaluate the reasons why you lust for him. His looks, he's smart, you feel safe around him? Then realize that you see this person 5 days of the week. This might sound awful, but is your father in the home? This could just be a father figure. Last, your body is going through several changes. Hormones are running wild and it can change the way you think, interpret and act. You shouldn't be depressed. Look for something to occupy your time. Take up a hobby or sport. Just get out of the house and enjoy your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2010): Hey there
Your story is freakishly close to my own. When i was 14 i fell in love with my teacher. I even wrote him a letter. i too had his pic on my ipod, and couldnt get him off my mind. when i gave him the letter it went wrong because i got in trouble because he showed it to other teachers. i was going to kill myself because he didnt want to be with me. but one day he confronted me, said some harsh things and i got over him. It was an embarrassing time of my life. i really dont know how to help except avoid avoid avoid. i really do wish you luck. and dont feel alone
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): There is no cure, but if you try to avoid bumping into him and bury yourself in other things like work, a sport etc then you will slowly feel better. I was the same, although the person I thought I loved moved away. I used to be obsessed with him but now I only ever occasionally really think about him. Good luck - you will be fine! x
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reader, gooddrawer +, writes (9 June 2010):
gooddrawer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhat I mean by getting better for him is that I want to stop being depressed but for him because he is the only person that is worth it,I want to show him that I am alright(I was hospitalised because I was cutting my arms).
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2010): do you mean get phsicaly better like working out??
also it will just have to happen over time, sorry.
its good your not considering telling him etc because thats a really bad idea.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (9 June 2010):
 Sorry, but there is nothing you can do specifically. What you are experiencing is natural, all of us have been there in one form or another, but there is nothing you can do to make yourself stop lusting for him. It'll just be a natural progression and eventually you will find another interest, possibly a boy your age or someone else.
Time is the only thing that will cure you. :-)
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (9 June 2010):
 I'm curious to know what "getting better for him" even means. Kindly define that?
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