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writes:How do I stop myself from looking for a girlfriend that is like my mum personally? I know it sounds odd, but I would prefer a girl who I want as a lover, rather than someone to replace my mum when I leave the house. How do I stop this trend? How should I react when talking to a girl etc. Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (16 November 2007):
 Firstly, do not let her do things for you, that you could do yourself. She is not there to take care of you. It is you that needs to take care of her. If you want to get out of seeking mommy mode, try being the daddy and treat her like your little girl.
My work (see my profile) is all about making a woman feel like your lover instead of your mother to keep her satisfied in the relationship. In my philosophy, it is all about addressing her emotional needs.
-Frank B KErmit author of Everything Out of Her Mouth is a Test:A man's guide to the emotional needs of women and I'm A Man, That's My Job.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): Well, for starters, you can't look up to a woman, you have to look AT her. As an equal. As someone who you want to share with, not burden. The more independant and self reliant you are the better off your relationships will be. And by that, I mean, learn to cook for yourself, learn how to do laundry, live by yourself for a while and be self reliant. Don't expect her to solve your problems. Make your own dentist and doctor appointments.
Relationships are hard enough without men burdening women with their day to day stuff. Women do all of the above for themselves, and we eventually resent when men seem incapable of looking after themselves.
If you can do those things, then you will find your relationships will have less baggage and more strength.
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