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writes:How do I get over my bf's past?I am 23 and he is 34 and has had a lot of girlfriends. We have been together for nearly 5 years we live together and have a young babywhen i met him i knew he had a past- we met through a friend of mine who was an ex girl friend of his.he has been in 1 long term relationship where he lived with a girl- she already had 2 kids and i know they got engaged but he tells me she asked him in front of her family and he couldnt say no.other than this i think his other relationships have lasted no longer than 6-9 months and he told me he has had a lot of 1 night stands although he has recently retracted that statment.he has been quite a neglectful bf and i have spent a lot of my time with him dissapointed, unhappy and boredwe have done a lot of talking recently and he promised to be better and make more of an effort to make me happythis hasnt been a problem for me for the whole of our relationship but for the last 6 months i have been on maternity leave and i spend a lot of my time alone and have a lot of time to think.all the things he has told me about his past have come back to haunt me and i find myself thinking about them constantly and even getting jealous of his ex'show do i stop myself being like this as it is driving me crazy? ive tried keeping myself busy but theres only so much you can do with a small baby in tow. i know that this is mostly a problem within me so id like to know how i can be at peace with his past and within myself without constantly distracting myself.sorry for the long post- thanx in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Its A Usual Thing to be jealous of you boyfriends or husbands ex members , but you have to think if he liked his ex girlfriends then why would he be with you , try not to be as doubtful about you relation ship and try to get the most out of it as you can before its too late .
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (29 May 2007):
 If what you say is true then it does sound like he is making the effort to improve things within the relationship.
Try and focus on your present and your impending future with him and your baby. Your stresses and anxities will not create a healthy environment for your child.
Look at what is a around the corner with what you have rather than what has already past.
Stay postive.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 If he's had a baby with you, and made an effort to stop being neglectful, than he loves you. Don't punish him for his past. He's trying to change, and not a lot of people that you will meet will even try to do that.
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