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writes:Hello! I asked a question a while back: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-22-lesbian-and-in-a-relationship-with.html Anyway.Here's a followup, and a new problem. I managed to leave my girlfriend, but now she won't stop calling me and sending me messages. The messages are all very romantic and say things like "I love you so much, I hate myself for having done this to you, if you don't give me another chance I will never be able to forgive myself" or sometimes things like "I loved you but you never loved me, I was just a fantasy for you and now that you've lived it out you're throwing me away" (?!), but on the phone she is stiff and tells me things about her day and what the dog did, etc.The problem is that the guilt is eating me alive. I don't want to go back to her - at least, not most of the time - but it feels as though it's the only way to sort things out. So what do you say? Do I give her a last chance? Bear in mind she's already had about ten.You know what, I really hate relationships. All of them. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi! Thanks for replying. DV1, nobody cheated so that isn't the problem - it was just hell on wheels. I know I just have to get past it, but it's hard. Also because she's a manic depressive so I spend most of the time wondering if she's dead or something. I tried ignoring her calls but it didn't work, she just kept sending millions more messages saying things like "Oh, you've decided to ignore me? Wouldn't it be so much simpler for you if I just disappeared?" which guilted me into replying.
Time. It will work. Also I lashed out at her a little bit last night and told her that it wasn't surprising that I wasn't coming back, seeing as she had been treating me like sh*t for the last six months. Now she's sorry but it's too late. And of course I feel bad again. Ugh.
Well thankyou again.
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reader, candy00s  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Dont get back with her, she has messed you around too much and made you think negative about relationships.
You deserve someone who will treat you better.
Try ignoring her calls, or change you number and cut off contact with her, she shouldnt be making you feel guilty here.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Sometimes, you just need to stand your ground. Eventually, the phone calls will stop. If she's the one that cheated, you have no reason to feel guilty. Good job.
DV1
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