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writes:My FWB and I are like soulmates. We get along so well together and live together and make each other very happy. We've been content being "just friends" and although I'm pretty sure he would like an official bf/gf relationship with me, he doesn't pursue one and says he is happy doing the FWB thing. I don't want a relationship with him either, but I feel like this awkward arrangement needs to change. How is either one of us ever going to find someone we do want to be in a relationship with if we keep carrying on this way? We've even talked about having kids together! It's so weird. It just doesn't make sense to let things continue the way they are, and I want things to change but I don't know how to go about it. I also don't want to hurt his feelings at all. What should I do?
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reader, TheDarkDoc  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 All what i can say is , give it a chance !!! The best relationship i've ever had which is becoming margie is with my best friend !! Friends with chemistry is one of the most amazing things that can ever happen to you !!! And you two sounds like that !! Belive me you won't find somebody knows you, understand, love you better than him and vise versa !! So just think about it !!! Wish you best of luck, my advice is based on a personal experience !!!
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reader, TimmD +, writes (1 April 2010):
 Sorry, but it sounds like you're already boyfriend and girlfriend. You're living together, you consider yourselves "soulmates" and you make eachother very happy. It doesn't get much better then that. If you try to change things and even try to see other people, unfortunately it will turn out just like any other breakup. If he has feelings for you and truly wants more and you don't, well that's a problem also.I'd say you are to the point where you either need to take the relationship to the next level, or end it altogether. If you stay like this, he will grow to care about you even more and it'll seem more like a relationship to him... without him knowing that you have no intentions of staying with him.If you don't want to be his girlfriend or take it to the next level, his feelings will be hurt no matter what. This is the nature of such relationships....
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