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writes:I'm completely in love with this guy, however he only seems to pay attention to me every now and then. He uses me, because in my twisted head that's desperate for him to love me too and will do anything for him, I'll do stuff on webcam for him. I know he's using me, yet I constantly make excuses for him. He's quite insecure and I do think that when he feels a bit down he'll just talk to me and have a self-confidence boost. But I'm sick of being there for him. Yet every time he talks to me I beg that this will be the time he falls for me. I love him too much to give up this chance.I can't just go out and fall in love with someone else, my love for him is just too much and everyone is compared to him and no-one ever matches up.What should I do?I can't go on like this, but can't think of anything else to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010): its funny cuz u sound just like me....ive been with my man for three yrs and lately its been on n off. for some reason i just cant be without him n it drives me crazy. we practically live together, i do his laundry, i cook for him and help him with every single thing and i feel so unappreciated. he always wants to leave me after all i do for him...but idk y i always want him to cum bak. maybe its cuz im sooo used to having him around and cuz i love him so much. sumtimes i try n do me n go out n stuff...u kno have my fun also, but it doesnt work at alll. i still think about him n want him. he cums he eats n sleeps ova n then leaves to go chill staying away is the best solution i guess even tho its hard
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reader, nokutenda  +, writes (3 December 2008):
he is using you because he knows he can put a stop to thisstay away from this guy,don;t answer his calls if he calls.you deserve better than thisit may hurt not to talk or see him for some time but its good for you take each day as it comes,right down your feelings,give yoself timethe right guy for you will come along
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Well sooner, or later nature will take its course.
For now feelings are in the way, but to stop being used, you might want to try practicing slowly moving away from him, he might start clinging closer to you.
Sometimes if you want to be chased you got to run.
He has gotten to know you now for some time, so if oneday, or a few days if you all of a sudden left, I bet he miss it.
Get scarce, every once in a while.
I always say people pay good money for doormats, imagine if someone took it away they notice something is missing.
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reader, AngelofLove +, writes (18 January 2007):
 If it makes you sick being there for him and feeling used, STOP! You have more control over this than what you realise.
You are living in hope and it may never happen. He won't respect you for being that easy.
He pays you attention when he is bored and he wants entertainment himself.
Be strong and move on to pastures new.
Good luck
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reader, kimmy  +, writes (17 January 2007):
 Stop boosting his confidance. Let him go if he is using you there is someone out there that will not use you. Get happy with yourself. Put yourself first.
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reader, cece23 +, writes (17 January 2007):
 My dear....there will be a lot of men that will come in and out your life. You don't have to settle for him, because yall aren't married. You need to let him go before he lets you go, because it will end u hurting you more. A man that uses a woman is scum...he needs help, and you won't be able to help him....he needs to help his self. If you decide to let him go......let him go for you...because you should love yourself more than anyone could ever do in this wrold....Trust me...you will be okay...and there will be another guy that you will love more than you love him....Right now you are banking on his potential and hoping he will change....well hope is not good enough right now for you....letting go will make you stronger, will teach you what is for you and not for you......it may be difficult for a little while....but time will heal the wound.....o with your first mind....listen to yourself.....you already know this is not what you want....so be a woman and stand up for you....he's not worth you degrading yourself, and putting you on web.....love who you are....go out and have fun.....later
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reader, finchy +, writes (17 January 2007):
 I used to be in the same boat i was completely in love with a guy i thought loved me too but i was wrong!
He would only speak to me when he was single and when he did he was always asking me to do stuff on webcam for him.
Eventually i decided enough was enough and chucked him.
And so should you! he is using you as a confidance booster! xx
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