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writes: Help! I am a flirt!. I have been in a relationship with my b/f for almost 7 years. I never ever used to flirt the way I do, when we go out and drink alcohol I turn into a big flirt @ it makes me feel sick, I am so disgusted with myself. I am 25. I think that some of the reason is that when I do flirt and get attention, my self confidence goes up. I don't have much. And I think that the fact that I have always wanted to get married and my partner doesn't believe in marriage has hurt me to a certain extent. Even tho he wants to be with me forever, just the fact that he won't make that final committment hurts. And he doesn't flirt. But he has broke my heart once before by ending our relationship suddenly, (he had a quarter life crisis) How do you think? I can stop being such a copius flirt. I have even cut down and stopped alcohol....HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2010): Apparently the first answerer don't know much about alcohol. Alcohol makes everyone more flirty. And if you drink lot's your decision abilities get worse. Alcohol shuts down parts of the brain and the last parts that stay active is for appetite and sexual drive.
So if you drink too much, flirting does not have to have anything to do with "subconscious decisions" which, according to first answerer, "tells what you really want" it's just the archaic survival mode and need for sex. It probably doesn't have anything to do with your relationship. This is the case if you really take too much of those drinks.
For the first answerer who apparently thinks that you show your real me when drunk: people pass out to shit pools when drunk. Does this mean that's what they really want?
Some people just are like that when they drink. It doesn't matter if they are in relationship with the perfect price. My advice to you is: stop drinking. Simple as that. It's good for you.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (22 May 2006):
 You are setting yourself up to cheat on your boyfriend. You can blame it on the alcohol or admit the empty void you're feeling.
You are in a dead end relationship and your heart wants more. As long as you stay in this relationship you will continue to try to fill this void.
It is your choice stick it out, and sooner or later cheat and ruin it, or end it now and look for what your heart is trying to tell you is out there.
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