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*ourmom12
writes:Okay, so I am dating this guy. He's pretty darn amazing, I must say, but there is one problem...Everytime he is busy or is hanging out with his friends, I get upset and frustrated. I don't know if it's a jealousy thing, or what, but it sucks and I really want it to stop. Whenever he's off hanging out with his friends or just busy doing something else, he stops texting me, and when he does actually text me, he always tells me whatever he and his friends are doing. That's great for him and all, but no offense, I don't really care. I get upset because he's hanging out with them and not me. He definitely can NOT balance his time between me and the guys out equally. He always spends way more time with them and it makes me feel sad and depressed.I always feel like I'm the one that tries in the relationship, like I'm the only one making an effort here. I feel like he doesn't want to see me as much as I want to see him, and I feel like I love him more than he loves me. It sucks because I don't know how he really feels because I'm not him.But anyway, I'm really tired of feeling like this and feeling like I'm the only one trying here, so back to my original questions: How can I stop being so dependent on my boyfriend? How do I make him see what he's missing out on by not spending that much time with me? How do I get him to want to spend time with me and hang out? Also, how can I become more independent and do my own thing and be my own person without him? Answers are much, much appreciated! Thank you. =]
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reader, Elydiese  +, writes (23 June 2010):
Why not do things you like doing when he's out. Have a girly night out or in, or find something you enjoy doing, you'll find it'll take your mind off it and eventually you'll forget you ever felt this way. As for the showing him what he's missing i dont think its neccessary to do so as you're probably great when your together but why not make it so everytime you do meet up you do something fun together or surprise him with something sexy he'll probably be thinking about it when he's out with his mates. Hope this helped. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): just try to understand him. My gf is the same as u.
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reader, Spades  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 When he's out with his friends and having a good time; why not you hang out with your friends and have a good time?
What's keeping you from having your own life?
Guaranteed you will feel a lot happier when you start doing things on your own. And so will he. If he sees that you're having a good time, he'll likely want to join you more often.
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