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writes:I need some help.. I was going out with this guy at work, like having sex only and I think I fell in love with him. Well, I don't think he feels anything for me. This is my first type of relationship like this (like having sex with a guy only and not dating.Now, I think, he might be having sex with this other girl at work, she sits next to us. I know for a fact that he IMs her, same way he IMs me. Same words and requests... like, "I'm feeling tired and I need some relief" I'm going to go hide" I know exactly what that means and he says the same things to her thru IM. I went in and read it one time.I know I am crazy for doing this, but I think Im in love with him and am really jealous. I can't forget about him and I miss him terribly. We haven't done anything for about a month. Ever since I confronted him about this situation with her. He denies everything and says that they're just friends and that she talks to him about J, his best friend, who everybody knows she's been having sex with for about a year.So now, I'm pretty sure that my guy is having also having sex with her. So both of those guys are having sex with her. It makes me terribly jelous and don't know what to do. Maybe leave him alone, but its hard.
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reader, Marr2010 +, writes (19 May 2010):
Marr2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks again. I am so stupid, I have this obsession with him but I am trying my best to let it go. Its like a drug that I am addicted to. I find myself needing to see where he's at all the time, its crazy. Anyways, I changed my screen name for now until he finds out the new one. Im thinking that he won't be able to IM me by doing this. The thing is, I'm probably the one that will miss him and him, well, he'll just probably not even notice that my old screen name is not online .....
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reader, Marr2010 +, writes (17 May 2010):
Marr2010 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for all your suggestions. I know that is what I need to do but is not easy. When he feels lonely he still IMs me or texts me and denies and swears he's not doing anything with her. This needs to end I know it, but when I stop talking to him, he insists. Hopefully, I'll find a way :)
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (14 May 2010):
 This is why FWB should never happen. Because in most circumstances, one person falls for the other and the other doesn't feel the same and is having sex with another girl, then it is clear to me that all he is interested in is sex. So don't go there because you'll just end up disappointed. Cast yourself away from him and mix with other guys and girls, on a friendly basis at first. Hopefully that way you'll get over him.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (14 May 2010):
This is why FWB
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 May 2010):
I think you need to end it. The moment a FWB starts to feel this way, then it's time to move on. I'm sure you'r hurt and jealous, but you know this isn't going to go any further. You need to stop it now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): You confronted him and he got defensive. That right there is the quickest way to drive him away. Further, as the old saying goes, if he's doing something with you there's a good chance he's doing it with someone else as well. You may have fallen in love but it seems he doesn't feel the same way. I know it may be hard but it's best to move on.
all the best
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