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writes:Some one please knock some sence into me please, i have an other half that i'm crazy about, 10 years this oct, but the other night i was fighting with my daughter and i took her phone from her (she is 17 and that is not an easy thing to do)without going into the ins and outs of things i read her messages and there where messages on her phone that ended my life he (the other half) had sent her messages asking her to send him pics of her, i boxed the head of him kicked the legs of him and f###ed him out . Then i found out he slept with my sister and kissed my 20year old niece , he is 35. now im left with our beautfull 4 year old daughter all alone , i dont know why i'm wrighting this , i know he is a bo##ix and every other name under the sun , i know i cant take him back . but i want to , i gave him everything, so when he left he took all my dreams with him, i'm just very lost at the moment, numb , i'm in a night mare that i cant wake up from, where do i go from here? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): You feel numb, but your strength is something to be proud of. It's good to see a mother who is taking the side of herself and her children. There have been so many posts on dearcupid from children who were abused by stepfathers or fathers, yet their mothers let it go on... and though the children have grown up now, their lives have been so difficult because they were so unhappy and unable to trust or even love. It's so hard because this creep isolated you from your family, but one day all your family will thank you. Time is on your side... in a few months you'll be over this user and feeling strong. Just hang in there and cut off all contact except through a lawyer! Having this man around was like having a deadly disease but not knowing it. Now that he's gone, the healing can begin.
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reader, stupid fool +, writes (5 July 2008):
stupid fool is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANK YOU for your reply , dont even know how to fill my days in, its saturday and it rain we would be sitting on the couch now cuddled up, but instead i haven't heard a word him, the pig, i'm finding it very hard today as i cant talk to any of my family, i'm so so lonely, but it good that you took time out to reply , you seem a good person thank you x
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (5 July 2008):
 The guy is a sleeze and you found him out, Good on you! You left him and put your family first which is brilliant and shows how strong you can be. As this is a recent event you shouldn't even be thinking about where to go from here. Just go day by day and be confident in the knowledge that you did the right thing for you and your family. Being a single mum doesn't have to be doom and gloom, but I can well imagine it feels like enormous pressure in your head right now as you are still in shock. I think it will take you a long time to get over this and it would be wise to keep out of his way until you have had time to adjust to your new life. I can only hope that your future life is a happier one.
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