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writes:I cheated on my 8yr boyfriend. He came to know, i asked for forgiveness. Its been a year, but he is still hurting a lot. He says i have not participated in his pain, though i have cried and gone through a lot emotionally myself in trying to win him back. How do i show that i participate in his pain? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): You are doing everything you can. That is great. I hope he will get over it in time. Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone who replied. I know one should forgive, and i feel thats what i would have done too. At weaker moments he tells me he still loves me, so i know he does, and he cannot do without me, but very often he falres up , and shows his humiliation and pain.
I have told him that i will stand by him, for however long it takes for him to get over this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): I agree with the anonymous female. He needs to forgive. Forgiving is a great quality but it is hard of course. If he cant forgive he has to move on. I am afraid you cant do anything more. You can only arrange a girl for him to cheat on you.. I mean what else he wants? You have done what you can do. Now it is upto him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): Hi
How do you participate in his pain?
One could say you should not have hurt him in the first,
But such is life.
If my boyfriend had a broken leg and i offered to break mine to participate in his pain ...it would not make him feel any better, it makes the situation have a stronger hold because two people are wallowing in the suffering and pain. You need one partner to say you can't walk at the moment because of me, so i will help you to walk if you let me. Don'T break a leg to HELP or you may find neither can walk. life should not be about suffering and if your boyfreind is suffering so much and can not forgive, then he needs to leave the relationship and move on, this then could be your time of suffering. If you both believe that life is about suffering?
Is it really about the ACTION or REACTION ?
Via con dios.
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