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*ivejust2bJess
writes:I been with my boyfriend for over a year now but sometimes I feel like he doesn't know how much i really truely love him. I gave up modeling jobs, and a chance to compete in miss teen USA, but most of all i gave up my virginity all up for him. I was saving that for marriage. I know i cant get anthor chance with this stuff and my dreams since i was a little girl is now gone. But he is one of my dreams that i wanted for a very long time, and if i lose him then what else am i stuck with? nothing....id have nothing left. How can I help him to see and show him that he is the love of my life and that I really love him? Please him me..... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2010): oh boy, just because you gave your virginity to a man does not obligate him to fulfill your dreams of marriage, the white picke fence and children. Of course it would be great if all romances lead to happily ever after, but the truth of the matter a small percentage of them do, especially those relationships started around the age of 18.
It was your choice and your decision to give up on your own personal goals to follow this guy around, I feel sorry for you about that because now you are feeling regret and and a sense of loss and fatality at such a young age.
What you really ought to be doing is keeping your focus on YOU and achieving your goals and staying on your path to happily ever after which is to be married. The thing is you are asking how you can "make" him love you and want the exact same things, apparantly he either is not ready, not able due to immaturity and lack of an ability to support a family or a marriage or has no plan to committ to a happily ever after with you.
Being a girlfriend is a "trap". Men do not committ until they get down on one knee and ask you be his wife, until then you are simply just dating him. That is why you always want to stay strong on the inside and stay focused on you, and keep your heart open to other men who may be ready to step up and claim you as the ONE.
Short answer is he already knows what you want, he already sees your sacrifices, he already knows you love him. If he is not willing to commit to happily ever after, then you have a pretend relationship, and that is just the facts, mam. You can decide to what you want to do based on that.
If you think you are ready to settle down and get married and that is your girl, then ask for what you want from him...and then listen to what he says and realize that is your answer.
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