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writes:OK so i have recently decided i am very much bicurious.I really want to try sime stuff with a guy but i have not got any bi or gay friends.i really do not know how to approach anyone at all. I did discuss the situation with one of my female friends. She understood me but could not help me any further than accepting what i said. I have not approached anyone in my family about it either. I try do disassociate myself from my family increasingly so at the moment because they are fairly strict religious folk who dont take kindly to this sort of thing. I have never tried to approach a guy before for anything like this apart from once when i was drunk and everyone thought i was joking. So if any gay/bi guys or girls know anything about this please what did you do? I am also concerned because I live very near the gay capital of the uk and sti's are a problem in some areas.
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reader, lonelygirl25  +, writes (6 May 2010):
i am in the same situation with my fiance and i am bi as well. i went through my own discovery when i was 16. the best thing you can do especially since it is mostly curiousity right now is keep it between you and a select few good friends. parents can over react especially since you are not sure yet (that usually is a step later on if you discover you prefer men) the first thing you can do is join sites like craigslist or free meet singles sites and try talking to people you may be interested in. people will be open and understanding and even excited to have found a newbie!!! hopefully soon enough you will find someone of interest close enough to you and experiment. it is your body you need to learn what you like and dont like and there is no way to kno this unless you try things out
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reader, squirtrocks123 +, writes (5 May 2010):
squirtrocks123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioncheers guys this all really helped me get pro active on this one!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (5 May 2010):
 you live near brighton or manchester? meeting people on the club scene often leads to shallow one night stands, there is always gaydar and other internet sites for this kind of random hook up althought the results can often be disappointing (due to not getting what you expected in a photo, or just an endless barrage of slutty unnatractive old men).
the best bet is to meet gay men through a hobby, like sport/art/choir/drama group- anything that involves gay men that you enjoy. look for gay activity groups and maybe try to find a gay friendly gym? dunno if they exist to be honest as banning straight people is unfair. you are going to have be open with people you fancy if you want anything to happen with them.
its difficult meeting gay men outside of the bar scene and cottaging/dogging has its own special dangers
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reader, squirtrocks123 +, writes (4 May 2010):
squirtrocks123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionactually this one quite interests me. Do you know any websites ideal for this
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): My advice is start on the internet. You can learn a lot about yourself chatting with other bi-curious/gay guys. When you are sure you wanna take it to a physical level use protection. Unfortunately STI and STD's seem to spread faster in the gay community so just protect yourself. Don't believe all the stuff you hear using conddoms can be very sexy if you try ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): Maybe you could go to some gay bars.. would your female friend come with you? I know it sounds a bit tacky but it's probably the top way to meet guys if you're curious that way. Just go with it and have fun (be safe though).
Also, if you're not ready for other people to know this about you, then be discreet about it and ask your friend to be as well.
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