A
female
age
30-35,
*hrissib08
writes:uhm. im jus soo confused about what to do. soo on a cool summer night. i met this guy. me 2 of his friends and 2 of my friends were chillin one nite and we wound up having sex. i am down south in school but i visit where he lives about 4 mnths out of the year; so we wuld chill a lot when i was there. i knew it was a casual relationship because when i would bring up him having a girlfriend he would always tell me he was too busy or that it would be me if i didn't live so far away. so that year in september i found out i was pregnant and when i told him he told me he would pay for me to get an abortion. i told him that i was keeping it. at the end of october i found out i lost the baby. i went up there in december for christmas time and he was very consoling. we did wind up having sex again. i went back home for school. and while i was there; a girl i'd known sent me a friend request and it turns out she was his girlfriend of about 8 or 9 years and she was about 8 months pregnant with his son. when i got up there that summer i told myself i was thru with him. i asked him about the whole 'baby' situation and he told me that she wasn't his girlfriend. just his babymother. i just don't know what to do with him. i say that im done with him; and we live in two different places so i do distance myself from him; but i just feel like i can't let go; and and i want him to know how much he's hurt me. he always acts so nonchalant towards my feelings and it really hurts me . . . does anyone have any advice on how i can move on ? or how to get rid of my feelings of resentment towards him ?
View related questions:
abortion, christmas, move on Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, helplessgirl08  +, writes (6 January 2009):
i think its more of a feeling that you cant trust him more then resentment if you realy like you wont be able to move on so easy but if you realy want to move on just tell him your over and dont visit him anymore it maybe hard but if you want to move on thats what you got to do
A
male
reader, roadman  +, writes (6 January 2009):
 Those feelings take time to go,there link to memory..You'll start to over come them you as build new bonds to new people,and old love is replaced by new..
Its not an over night process thats for sure.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2009): 1ST Of all when you told him about you being pregnant he offered to pay for the abortion, but he is having a child with another woman who he claims she is just the babies mother …. Do u actually believe him or do u just want to set yourself up to get hurt? What does your gut tell u about this man? What does your heart tell you? Don’t you think that you deserve more than what he can offer you? My advise see this man for what he really is and keep telling yourself he is not wroth you
...............................
|
