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writes:Although i speak with the man i used to date last year and i saw him some times during this year there isn't easy to arrange to meet each other. Usually he is working or he has a lot of social responsibilities so he hasn't plenty free time. Sometimes i call him and say to him that i want to meet each other. When he calls me something such bad luck happens and we can't arrange to meet. I can't explain that. I feel like biased about this. I feel like that isn't to happen. I want to leave these bad feelings and think more positively about this. When he calls me i always respond with great anxiety especially when i am out. What's the best way to respond to him? What should i say to him? Should i give him all my attention or be more calm? Reply to this Question
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reader, shandygirl  +, writes (15 January 2008):
 I don't mean to offend you, but it sounds to me like he has another woman.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2008): You should never give anyone all of your attention. And if this guy is too busy to see you then forget him.
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reader, Jeweliska  +, writes (15 January 2008):
 I am no expert, but what works for me is to meditate and think about something that makes you feel calm. I like to take 5 deep breaths and then think about walking in a garden and imagine trees and birds that make me happy. Sometimes people I know appear in my imagination and I tell them how I feel.
If you can learn to do something like this, your feelings can already be a bit sorted out by the time you speak with him next time. You will also feel calm even if you don't get the response that really want.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 January 2008):
 Just be your natural self and be calm . Talk to him like a friend would and let the circumstances and situations lead.Relax and enjoy his company.
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