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male
age
36-40,
*rihonesty
writes:I've been working at a supermarket for 5 months now and one of the cashiers has recently been giving me a lot of attention. It started with random talks a few months back but more recently her efforts have been kicked up a notch. It started with a wink, now there are lunch breaks where we just happen to run into each other. The other day I helped her pick out some seeds to plant in her garden but the next day she told me she didn't buy any of them. Seems to me like she just wanted to be near me for a bit and talk. The end of that day, she wanted to look at the seeds again. She asked me to help her pick out a bunch of them with her. When I said I had to go and put the strawberries away she quickly said, "I was gonna buy some strawberries too!" She didn't. Now I'm not dumb. I'm pretty aware of what's happening.But she seems to talk endlessly and I can't tell if this is her or if she's nervous. Her attention also seems to be everywhere. I just don't know how to respond to any of this. I haven't dated in 5 months and my last relationship lasted 3 years. She's an attractive girl, but I feel like we're pretty opposite and I really don't know how to respond to her advances. I usually just go along with it and try and match her enthusiasm but naturally I'm an introvert, and so sometimes I just feel drained from her incessant talking that I don't see any point to taking it further. What should I do? How do I respond to a girl like this if I wanted to move things forward? And how would I respond otherwise, just in case? Maybe she just wants a piece. LOL! Reply to this Question
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reader, TEM +, writes (15 March 2011):
 This woman is trying to get to know you. If you are thinking you would like to date her, keep talking to her. Eventually something non-threatening will come up, and one of you will ask the other if you'd like to join them.
If you feel drained by her talking, perhaps she is not one you'd like to date, however. If you do not enthusiastically join in the conversation she will get the hint that you are just not that into her.
If she presses the issue and asks you to do something with her, you will have to tell her that you are not looking for a relationship right now. You have just ended a long-term relationship and are not ready to date.
You never know though. Maybe it is just nerves. She might turn into something wonderful if you give her a chance.
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