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writes:Hi AllI'd really appreciate some good advice.I'm 30 and I quit smoking 5 weeks ago, after being a smoker of cigarettes for 15 years. During this time I have quit so so many times it's unreal, and obviously I've never suceeded but this time, i really want to suceed. I can't go back now.Well I have also been a dope smoker (not everyday) but on a regular basis for all this time too. Longest time without has probably been for a year or so. And it is a more preferrable feeling being stoned than being drunk to me as I like being reflective, living in my own head etc. But problem is that I can't do one without the other as smoking dope keeps crap in my lungs and I so desperately do not want to be a smoker any more as I don't want to die young and all of the other horrible things that come with it. Plus, I hate being dependent on some substance for my happiness, which is pretty much what I've always been on cigs and dope.Well now to my question. I am due to go to a festival next week and I'm so worried I'm not going to enjoy it without smoking dope - how sad is that?? At first, my friend said that she wouldn't do it either, but now she has said that she is going to be taking some weed. One of her friends is going and I think she smokes it too and I'm just so sick to the stomach of thinking how much this is going to ruin my experience of the festival if those two are going to be on a totally different wave length to me. wouldn't be so bad if I didn't even like the stuff they were doing, but the fact that I'd like to smoke ordinarily to enhance the experience makes it even harder.Arrgghh, don't know what I'm asking for but would really appreciate some help/advice if anyones got any on how I can resist or whatever?I dont' want to be a miserable person - a killjoy while I am there and not relax, how do I get over this and still have a good time?
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 August 2009):
 I always find it quite funny to be sober (ish) whilst my friends are smoking weed because when you sit back and watch them they look and sound so stupid! So it definately doesnt ruin your fun, it actually makes the whole experience better because you can laugh at you friends and think "god what an idiot" at all the stupid things they are doing!
Just have a few drinks, that will relax you and put you on a similar wavelength to them. While they are smoking just remember all the harm it is doing to them and that should put you off!
Festivals are amazing regardless of how much you drink, smoke etc. It is all about the music and spending some time with friends getting muddy and having a laugh. I'm sure you are able to have a laugh every day without smoking weed, so it wont be any different just because you are in a muddy field! Stick to your guns - you have done so well to quit so dont give in now. Your friends can do as they choose, it is their bodies and their health they are damaging. But you can do the right thing and stay off it, whilst still having a good time. Go to the festival believing that you will have a good time without smoking - dont go with a negative attitude otherwise you will end up having a rubbish time.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, MonksDaBomb  +, writes (17 August 2009):
 First of all, good for you for quitting! Unless if this festival is really important to you, I personally wouldn't go - if I had just stopped smoking and knew there were going to be a lot of smokers there, it would be very tempting. If you still want to go, try chewing gum....a lot!! I have heard chewing gum helps resist the urges. Good luck, stay strong.
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