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writes:Hi all I'm in a new situation and would really need some help.. I've found myself realising that I have fallen for a boy in my school and he likes me back! I'm 16 and he's a year older, we get on so well because we were friends and it started to develope, I trust him and can tell him absolutely anything. It's been 2 weeks since we've admitted how we've felt for each other. We spend time together at school but have t managed to spend time outside of class yet due to is both working a lot at the minute. Now here's the issue: we've held hands and hugged but when he goes in for a kiss I panic a little and back away. I know this upsets him even though he's told me that it's fine.. I'm just really scared that he will stop liking me and to be totally honest I just get really bad butterflies and get nervous. This is my first real relationship I suppose, there was a thing between me and another boy over a year ago but we went out for all of 3 weeks before he cheated on me. I just want help on how to relax enough to kiss him? Thank you all
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2015): I think the problem probably is that he wants to kiss in a public place and you are just not ready for it yet.As you say you havent been dating for long and have very little time outside of school maybe you should stick to a hug for now until you get to know each other just a little bit more.If he really likes you he will ralise that a mwah/mwah peck on the cheeks is enough for now.You are doung him a favour...unless you dated and actually got married there will be other partners possibly in the future so he should get used to mwah/mwah as it is a classy bit of harmless communication that doesnt risk anyones tongue going awol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2015): I have kissed a lot of guys (way too many lol) and i still freak out at those first dozen kisses with a new guy. I think just doing it to getting over the fear is one way to get more comfortable. Believe your body knows what it is doing, trust it that it can kiss and that it can kiss really well. Just go for it is my advice.Another thing would be kissing in an environment that you are comfortable in. You might be freaking out if he is trying to jump your lips at school cos you likely have an audience. You might feel totally different if on a home dvd date making out on the sofa.Talk to him - tell him you are worried.Also you are worried about losing him but try not to do that - just enjoy what you have today and see what happens. You like each other so enjoy that.
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