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writes:So, I just moved to a big city and I don't have a lot of friends, although I am working on it; at the moment I am not interested in other kinds of relationships, because I have some issues to solve, but I don't sleep around either, just focusing on friendships - one of the few friends I have here is this guy who is in a long term relationship, and since a couple of weeks he has been sending sms a bit too often to make me feel comfortable, and he has been inviting me out a lot, although I did go only when other people were present. This guy is kind of hyperactive and quite sociable, so I didn't think too much of it, but yesterday at the pub with his friends, probably by accident, I kind of felt a hand on a leg, and it wasn't my hand. Now I am dreading the moment when he will make a pass.Is there anything I can do to prevent it, like showing pictures of families with kids and saying: with my future husband I want 20 of those, or what is the best attitude to say no and stay friends? Laugh? be firm? I am not sure he is the cheating sleazy kind, I suspect his is one of those "open relationships" (where I live they are pretty common, although I don't agree with the concept), so I don't want to judge but I am really not interested either. Thanks for any suggestions Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2011): Just be honest and stop communicating and hanging around with him so much. Make some other friends!
That hand was not accidental- believe me- you need to be proactive about this, if it happens again tell him not to do that and remove it. Make it very clear that you're not interested.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 I don't think you can put a guy off he likes you.
Guys are designed for the chase ;)
The best thing you can do is prepare your answer just in case one day he decides to propose you to get closer.
Just be yourself and tell him the truth.
Failing that lie and say you just don't fancy guys ;)
Seriously, I've been through the experience your describing the best thing is to be honest and say your not interested.
Good guys respect that.
I hope that helps!
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