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writes:here goes my prob. m very jealous, everytime i see my bf talking to some other chick i go green. i always embarass myself infront of people because when that happens i dont care where we r i shout at the top of my voice its so embarrasing. the other time i saw my bf talking to some other gal n as usual i over reacted only to find out that it was his sister. wat can i do to stop this destructive behaviour. plz help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much guys fo your advice, i find it very promising, all of it.
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reader, Angzw +, writes (23 January 2010):
Why are you so insecure? Next time you are acting irrationally like this, just remember you are making a fool out of yourself. He is going to dump you if you don't start handling yourself. Jealousy is unattractive. But a beautiful smile and a kind word always is. To the girl who he is talking to, you just look desperate and controlling and she probably laughs at you with her friends. Just stop. Its not that difficult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): Well done for accepting and acknowledging that you are jealous, some people can't do that.
If you continue to act like that, it may drive him away and that thought can be enough sometimes to stop any unjustified accusations or behavior.
When you see him with a girl you don't know, just take 5 seconds to clear you head. Breathe slow and deeply as this is calmimg and count to 5, as you calm yourself down think how shouting will make you look and also how it will make him feel. You will be embaressed and he will feel hurt that you don't trust him.
Walk up to him, smile and loop your arm through his arm or hold his hand maybe even say hi and peck him on the check. That way your are clearly showing the girl he is talking to that he is your partner and instead of shouting have made clear signs he's not available.
By doing that you avoid embaressment and he will just feel you are being affectionate.
I hope that some of this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): has you may well know jealousy can ruin any relationship, i know, i lost a partner though me been jealous 20 years ago! when he chats to other women look how his body reactions are, his he flirting, touching them once too often or at a reasonable space away from them. do you know these women? and if you dont why dont you introduce your self in a nice polite manner, you dont have to tell them that you are his girlfriend am sure they will know. dont scream at him and embarras your self, may be he keeps you at a distance when chatting to other people because he knows how you will react.
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