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writes:Hi, i was wondering if anyone could help me out here. I have a fiance and hes been away for a while spending time with his sick mother, now I have no problem with that its just now we are both in separate towns. Mind you he is coming to town soon, his mother is getting better. Anyways lately i have been getting phone calls from him inadvertly accusing me of cheating telling me that i need to be 100% honest with him because hes 100% honest with me and stuff like that. Now ive never cheated and quite frankly i feel very insulted at the fact that he might even consider that i am cheating on him. Now i talked to one of my friends and he said that i need to somehow come up with a way to prove to my fiance that im not cheating. I have no idea how to prove this, because i thought that what i was doing was enough to prove to him that i love him with all my heart and that i would never do anything like that, and yet i still get messages saying he hopes im not cheating. I have no idea what to do anymore im going crazy here HELPPPP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): I am going through the same thing with my boyfriend of two years - and we live together!He is setting up a defense for one of two reasons: he has a fear of abandonment or he has realized what he is capable of and therefore projects it onto you. I am sure, being your fiance, that it is the former, but yes - it is a huge insult to you as a woman, a friend, a lover, a fiance...Do you want to marry someone who will show you such a lack of trust when there is no reason for it at all? You should not need to prove something that negates all that you give, it is disrespectful to you and to everything you put forth in the relationship.I promise, it will only get worse if you do not nip it in the bud as soon as possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2009): Hang on you havent cheated. Tell him that your offended, he either trusts you or he douesnt, trust should be a iven, if he doesnt trust you now then why would you marry him.
Tell him you havent cheated and he needs to stop accusing you of it, its disrespectful and frankly its annoying. If he doesnt like that well he will have to grow up, you cant live your life being accused of something that horrible.
I hope this helps,
Elpigaro
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