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writes: Hi,I have been in a relationship for a good 6 months now. I am a straight arrow and I love her and will never do wrong by her. However my gf is very insecure because of her previous relationship. I have this school friend who I told everything about her but I deleted msgs from my phone and calls to her because I wanted to avoid conflict. My gf wont understand.She found out 1 day though I keep in contact occasionally and also my friend knew details that I did not want others to know. I asked her to keep quite about it with but my gf found out about this she threatened to leave me.But in my heart I never did it with any bad intention. All I did was talk about my amazing gf I explained this to her.I AM A VERY GOOD MAN never will I do wrong by her.How do I clear my conscious?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): You could offer to take a polygraph test :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2009): You seem like a lovely guy and I think you are genuine, i could be wrong but im guessing by your message your nice.If shes insecure about her previous relationship that isnt your fault and you need to just make sure she knows that you wouldnt hurt her.An apology is in order for talking about her, buy her flowers or something nice, and tel her your sorry for upsetting her, and that you didnt intend to hurt her. Talking to a friend about your amazing girlfriend isnt a crime and maybe you could get your school friend and your gf to talk, maybe she'll understand a little more.Maybe she thinks that your hiding something from her so show her that you love her and prove any way you can that it was in good intention. Just prove to her that you didnt cheat, deleting messages and texts makes her think your hiding something, but by being open with her she is more likely to see you didnt do it to cheat or hurt her. Get your friend and gf together and show her that your completely devoted to her and that nothing is going on.I think because of her previous relationship she feeels insecure that your going to hurt her, so just be honest and open with her, and show her you love her.Oops, i went on a bit there, but best of luck and im sure eveerything will be fine :)
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (14 November 2009):
 I can understand why your girlfriend is upset because you discussed personal details with another woman.
I can understand if she now feels she cant trust you with her personal and private information.
You ask how you can clear your conscious, well you cant, but you can ask her to forgive her, promise (and mean it) that you will not do this sort of thing again, ask her what it will do to regain her trust, and do it, and eat humble pie for as long as your girlfriend deems necessary.
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