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female
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41-50,
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writes:Hi!4 weeks ago I left nyc and relocated to a new job in my hometown, there is a guy who works with me--- we knew each other casually through mutual friends, before this work thing. Well needless to say, since working with him I developed a major crush on this guy. He is funny, smart, and very very nice!We hit it off instantly, joking around, we make a great team on the job, having lunch together, etc., I am not shy so the second week on the job, I casually asked him to a movie. He seemed kinda shocked and stuttered that he was busy, but maybe next time. I was crushed! I've remained friendly with him, but a bit guarded and went on to make other lunch buddies on the job, at times he joins in and sits next to me, or offers a ride in his car, he is still an awesome guy! but I vowed (to myself) to not ask him again. Well lately, in the last week or so, he's been texting me just to say Hi, or sometimes he'll call my cell to chat while he drives home (quick like 3 minutes, cause I'm anti-cell and driving!!)Today he came into work and gave me a one arm hug, which I awkwardly accepted (ok inside I was THRILLED, but still caught me completely off guard) He made tons of eye contact, and when it was time to leave for the day gave me a !!two!! arm hug. I froze a little it was obvious, but I was stunned, and now it's after 8 and he didn't call or text like he's done before. Did I mess up??I really want to go out with this guy, but I don't want to wish too hard. How do I play it cool and wait patiently??! I don't want to ask again... but I think he's amazing!He is single, great work ethic, very friendly with everyone at work..Help!! please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2010): I would suggest playing it cool, and let him make the next move as you have already put it out there that you would be interested in socialising outside of work.
Also, keep having some light hearted flirts and banter just so he knows you have that connection.
Good luck!
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