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writes:Ive just started a new relationship, 5mths. I have serious trust issue, mainly from ex relationships. How can I over come this ?I dont want to loose him we are really good together. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (19 February 2016):
 I think you need to tackle your trust issues from a different perspective.
I assume you think it's men you can't trust, but really it's YOUR own trust you must earn. You need to be able to trust in yourself that you will not expose yourself to unnecessary risk by getting out when the first red flag appears, regardless of how otherwise great you think a guy might be.
You can't control what others do but you can control what YOU do so if you know that whatever happens you'll handle it effectively then your trust issues will likely be solved.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (18 February 2016):
Aunt Honesty gives good advice but if you can't put your previous experiences behind you (or if trust issues were also a problem with your previous relationships) perhaps you should consider some therapy or counselling.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 February 2016):
 It can be hard to learn to trust again after some bad experiences. But I guess you need to remember that all men are different. They are not all going to lie and cheat. If your man has nothing to hide and he is honest then that is a great start. Learning to trust someone can be difficult and a long process but just take small steps. Be open and honest with him about how you feel. Build up your confidence. Be a strong independent woman, show you don't need a man but that you are happy in a relationship as well. Show him you don't need to rely on him all the time.
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