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writes:I dont know how to move on from my ex boyfriend, we met in school and went out for almost three years and we were eachothers first love, In going off to university on opposite sides of the country we survived the first year then split, since starting university i was always unsure of our relationship and knew i was changing as a person whilst he wasnt. I ended the realtionship dermined i had dont the right thing we were both so young at 20 and i felt we had drifted.in the same year we started hanging out together again and this is where it all got very messy and i lost my sanity!! I felt safe and comforted being around him i never split from him for anyone else so he was still someone i felt attached to. When together it was like we had never split up and i started feeling that closeness again and he felt the same.However, he started seeing people etc and dating and i felt awful even though i had no right to. Him being with other people made me feel jealous and upset i became inconsolable when it came to him yet he would still see me and contact me despite not actually wanting to be with me. Anyway the whole situation drove me insane and i was severely depressed and was extremely self destructive i felt i had no one to blame but myself.The summer was over and i went back to university i saw him for the last time before i went he told me i was special to him which still haunts my thoughts of false hope. We still kept in contact over the phone etc and i still felt attached until for a while i no longer heard from him. A few monhs passed and he announced he was now in a new relationship and could no longer talk to me, i was left devastated again as my false hope had made me think we had got close again those few months before. His new relationship still makes me feel upset as we had only ever been with eachother.I feel like ive been left behind not moved on at all only just helped him to do so. I think of him still everyday and hope hel be in touch again one day as i miss him greatly as a friend. I just need to know how to move on as he has. In a heated arguement he said to me that i would never find anyone to love me like he did and that upsets me so much and i constantly think of it.We have many mutual friends and the thought of bumping into him and his new girlfriend kills me
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reader, pio5  +, writes (21 July 2008):
You'll find someone who loves you MORE than he did, I'm sure of that.
Moving on is a bit of a problem because from your side the relationship had no closure. You need to find that yourself. Start by being sincere with yourself as you don't seem to be doing so "i miss him greatly as a friend", while a few words on you say you're upset because he told you nobody'll love you like he did. I dealt with a similar situation by making new friends who in turn led me to find a new and totally special relationship that I'm still in.
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