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writes:This is the first time ive done this so please bare with me. Im 27 yrs old, im currently married, have been for 6 and a half years and i have 2 kids. For a little over a year my husband and I have had our ups and downs and I suffer from depression. In august I discovered chat rooms and I became emotionally involved with someone who lives on the opposite side of the world. Long story short...I honestly can say I fell in love. I felt very differently when I met him...like I had something to look foward to everyday instead of my same old routine. we began talking on the phone, we had even talked about us meeting meaning him coming to me. During this time,my husband and I were growing further apart mainly cause I wanted to spend all the time talking on the internet. In october I ended up leaving my husband, and I thought that if I did, my online lover and me could be together. Then that same day he got a call from his ex telling him she wanted him back and an arranged marriage was in the works (he's indian). I was so heart broken. I cried for days...and I ended up coming back to my husband due to the fact that I didnt want to be alone, and I saw what I was doing to my kids. Since then we havent talked as much as we used to, we have cut down to once a week. but he still tells me he loves me. so after all of this here is my question...why does he still talk to me? If we cant be together why does he even bother? And how can i learn to let go? I hate being the one who's sitting here waiting for him. I hate being the one crying over him. there are days I love him and days where i hate him and days where I wish we never met. How do i move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): An Indian guy is one of the smartest guys in the world.
I have known of guys who have had n number of affairs,sown wild oats and then went on to marry the virgin his parents selected or one of his exes who was a virgin until she met him.
I honestly doubt if he was serious at any point of time.
I am sharing some of the things I heard at the water filter in my ex-office.I have very light feet.I cannot be heard till I reach a place.
"Uske saath time pass kar raha hoon yaar"
-I am passing my time with her
"Shaddi ho gayi hai uski.-Toh kya hua.Mein usse doosri shaadi todi na karna chahta hoon.Hee Hee"
-She is married you know-"so what?I don't want to get married to her for the second time.Hee Hee".
I am sorry you are hurting right now.But please remember that you are married.Try to work on your relationship with your husband.
Honesty is very important in a relationship.He has gone back to his ex.He still says he loves you.Don't you think he is full of baloney?.He is emotionally cheating on her and you.
Maybe he wants a green card.Did you know many Indians marry foreigners for a green card.I am telling you like it is.
An average Indian Man doesn't think like one of your guys.you wouldn't even be able to bear him for a single day if you met him in person.
I hope you feel better soon.
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