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writes:How do I move on by myself? Okay so here is the thing in the past after a break up I have a hard time moving on unless I meet someone else and start dating them they make me forget about the other person. Right now it's been 7 months since I broke up with my ex and still think about him everyday the thing is in this situation I would like to move on without going into another relationship. I don't know if I can do it I'm not hurt anyone but the memories come back all the time I want to move one but I am stuck I realized that he was not a good guy he would talk bad about me with his friends heck I think he liked his friends more than me but I just want to move on
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reader, IvanD  +, writes (3 August 2015):
Firstly, I think how you're feeling, even after 7 months is really quite normal and common. Getting over someone properly really can take a long time.Secondly, I think its great that you want to get over him without relying on another relationship to help you along. Thats a healthy sign and shows that you have a sense of decency and self respect. Having said that, I'm personally not sure you are ever 100% over someone until someone else comes along. I think you can get 95% of the way, but its often the next date/relationship that puts the final nail in the coffin of the previous one.Finally, I agree with what has already been said. Keep yourself busy, get out there, do stuff, meet people. Enjoy yourself and plan fun things. Having a busy and active life will definitely help you to move on because you're not sitting around and dwelling on things too much.Good luck
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 August 2015):
 Instead of looking for a "replacement" learn to rely more on yourself.
When you in the past when from one relationship to the next, you kind of put a lot of expectation on the new guy to fill the old guys shoes and fulfill YOUR needs.
Being a HAPPY and CONTENT single is possible. Once you learn how to "entertain" yourself. That means DO stuff YOU enjoy. Spend time with people YOU care for and who cares for you.
You are still not feeling great about the break up even though you are able to recognize that he was NOT a good match for you. I think it partly comes down to YOU, putting yourself down for having dated him. YOU need to learn to let it go. Don't live with those kind of regrets. YOU are human, humans make mistakes.
Look at the silver lining here, you are NO LONGER dating a dud! You are NOT wasting time, energy, emotions, thoughts etc on a guy who doesn't deserve it.
Enjoy life, enjoy your job (and if you don't maybe consider figuring out what you rather do and work towards that goal) enjoy family and friends.
A couple are not 2 halves. A healthy couple are two wholes who mesh well. So don't settle for halves, not even when it comes to yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2015): its time for you to be your new best friend ..and i mean that you should treat yourself really nicely!Think about places you would like to go and things you would like to do.Develop new hobbies and intrests and above all be kind to yourself because you are busy moving on all the time that you are guiding yourself away from your last relationship.When is your next holiday? Have you planned it yet? Do you know what you will be doing next xmas and where will you be for new year.Plan this now with family and friends. If you are one of the many whio take these times alone for financial reasons get down the nearest church or foodbank and make yourself busy helping out, so that you are not missing out. Join a theatre group and offer to take tickets or hand out drinks in intermission.Study something thats fun and not too serious.If your age is correct you will have countless social opportunities coming your way, so dont worry, you have done a great job in getting seven months away from the wrong guy. You'll be looking for someone special so dint give anything away to a guy,not even a peck on the cheek (unless they are a particularly close friend).
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