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writes:I met a girl in 2001 while on holiday turned out we lived very close to each other back in london. When we got back I called her soon as i got home and we met up the next day and spent everyday and night together for a week.as much as i fancied her i felt she was out of my league and id sleep next to her with my clothes on outside the the covers. She woke me up at 4am one night and asked me to kiss her. We began being intimate but never had sex. She suddenly became very distant and we'd see each other now and again but we always called each other and text. Just like most friendships we'd argue and not talk for ages but we'd always end up callin one another again. I started seeing other people tho i couldnt get her out of my head because id developed strong feelings for her. After a few years she said she had feelings for me and if we could start again because she wanted to be with me. I was over the moon but found it hard to show because id hurt for her for so long and hated the fact she had the power to break my heart. just as we started to build a relationship her dad went to prison and she took this very hard and shut herself off. I would go on to be supportive of her and always call and talk to her and try to make sure she was ok and coping. her dad got released after nearly two years. I suffered a bad accident and ended up in hospital for two weeks. she called me that night turned out she was in hospital too after having a car crash. we saw the funny side and supported each other from our hospital beds. I thought after that that we could finally get together and her closest friends told me she still feels for me and wants to be with me she just finds it hard to show her feelings to me. She asked to see me one day and told me she was leaving the country for a new job and that she was coming back but didnt know when. I was heartbroke and broke down on the spot. She left we still talked after, Though i sufferd with depression for about 9 months and wasnt looking after myself at all. Cut a long story short. I ended up rushing into a marriage that didnt last very long and just recently me and the person in question have got back in contact and she knows that i was married. we have spent loads of time together and talked and kissed been out for dinner you know that sort of stuff! I know she has feelings for me but she has become very cold the past few weeks and going out of her way to avoid me....I feel very confused and dont know what to do or if Im all wrong about her and doesnt feel for me at all? Im hurting bad right now. I have loved this person for 8 years and never stopped. Can anyone help me???? What do i do? Thank you so much for taking time to bother yourself with my predicament..
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reader, clara08 +, writes (31 January 2008):
I think that this has been going on long enough now you need to sit down an lay it all out on the table for her tell her everything how you feel an how she made you feel and you need to be strong and tell her you cant do this any more you have all ready made your self ill over all this you need to look after yourself now once you have told her if she cannot commet to you you both need to stay away from each other for your sake please dont do this to yourself once you have told her that you cant play games any more she might feel the same an in that case you can both be happy together an if not please walk away far away i hope this helps good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): i am reallly confused as welll i dont knwo what to say but may be u deserve someone much better who can cherish u always remember noone is worth your tears and the one who is wont make u cry i respect your feelings i dont want to say stop loving her because i know thats not possible may be you should talk to her tell her what u have been through and how she takes this relationship if she think u guyz are only frieds? just try to talk and clear things up . i am happy that people like you still exisit . :) good luck i hope u get the very best .
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